“Are They Hearing Me?” When the Signs Aren’t Clear
Have you ever found yourself asking:
- “Does my child hear me when I call their name?”
- “Why does my child sometimes respond, and other times not?”
You might notice small things such as your child asking for repetition, turning up the volume, or seemingly tuned out in noisier environments, and wonder what it all means.
Let me reassure you gently:
There is no blame in questioning. There is no overreacting in noticing.
There is only care, attention, and your desire to understand your child. If you’re here, you’re already doing something important: you’re paying attention to your child’s communication, and that matters. As a pediatric Speech-Language Pathologist in Waterloo, Ontario, I sometimes speak with families who aren’t sure whether hearing could be playing a role in their child’s speech and language development. The truth is, hearing and communication are closely connected. Even small, temporary changes in hearing can influence how children experience and learn speech and language.
🎥 Watch: Why Hearing Matters for Your Child’s Communication
In the video above, I talk about how hearing supports speech, language, and connection. Below, I’ll expand with additional insights, practical guidance, and what to look for in everyday life.
How Hearing Supports Communication Development
Children learn verbal communication through consistent exposure to sound, not just words, but also tone, rhythm, and subtle differences between speech sounds.
When hearing is clear and consistent, children can typically:
✔️ Distinguish sounds: Notice subtle differences between sounds (like “p” and “b”).
✔️ Expand vocabulary: Learn new words more easily.
✔️ Follow complex language: Understand longer sentences as they grow.
✔️ Read social cues: Pick up on variations in tone that support their understanding of emotion.
✔️ Engage comfortably: Participate more confidently in everyday conversations.
When hearing is inconsistent, even temporarily, children may miss small but important pieces of language. Over time, this can influence how they understand, use, and feel about communication, as well as themselves.
This isn’t about something being “wrong.” It’s about understanding what your child is experiencing so we can support them more effectively.
A Closer Look at Temporary Hearing Changes in Children
One of the most common causes of fluctuating hearing in young children is middle ear fluid, which is often linked to colds or ear infections. Even after an infection has cleared, the fluid may not drain for weeks or longer. During this window, hearing can continue to fluctuate. If you notice changes in your child’s listening or responses, a check-in with your family doctor and/or an assessment by an audiologist can provide clarity.
What’s helpful to keep in mind:
- These changes are often temporary and treatable.
- They may come and go, shifting from week to week.
- They can be mild enough to go unnoticed, but still impact daily listening, as well as speech and language development.
What This Looks Like in Everyday Life
When experiencing temporary hearing changes, a child might:
- Hear speech as if it is muffled, distant, or underwater.
- Miss parts of words or sentences (such as quiet word endings that mark plurals or possessives, like “toys” or “Johnny’s”).
- Omit final consonant sounds when speaking.
- Seem less responsive or more easily overwhelmed in noisier environments.
- Show more day-to-day variability in their communication or speech clarity.
This can sometimes be mistaken for inattention or difficulty following directions, when in reality, the sound signal they are receiving isn’t clear.
Signs Your Child’s Hearing Might Be Affecting Communication
Every child develops at their own pace, but you might consider a professional hearing check if you notice any of these signs:
- Inconsistent responses: Not always reacting to their name or familiar sounds.
- Frequent requests for repetition: Often saying “what?” or needing instructions repeated.
- Volume preferences: Turning up the television or tablet higher than expected.
- Difficulty following directions: Struggling to keep up with instructions, especially longer ones.
- Environment-specific listening: Seeming more responsive in quiet settings compared to noisier ones.
- Physical discomfort: Tugging on their ears, holding their jaw, or showing signs of irritability.
- Speech and language shifts: Slower progress with speech sounds or overall language development.
Trust Your Intuition
These signs don’t necessarily mean there is a hearing difference, but they can be helpful clues that further exploration is warranted. Identifying brain differences or physical barriers early allows us to better support a child’s natural way of communicating.
Trust your observations. You don’t need certainty to ask a question. If you have your child’s hearing checked and no issues are found, that provides valuable peace of mind. If a difference is identified, it simply gives you a clearer roadmap for supporting your child.
Moving Forward with Curiosity: Navigating Your Support Options
If you have been wondering about your child’s hearing or communication, you might consider:
- Booking a hearing test: In Ontario, you do not need a doctor’s referral to book an assessment with an audiologist. While hearing tests performed by an audiologist in a private clinic are typically not covered by OHIP, many extended health insurance plans provide coverage. You may wish to consult with your insurance provider to see what is included in your plan.
- Speaking with your family doctor: Your doctor or pediatrician can help navigate health-related questions or provide the necessary referrals for medical specialized care (like an Ear, Nose, and Throat specialist) if needed.
- Consulting with a Speech-Language Pathologist (SLP): An SLP can help you understand your child’s unique communication profile and provide strategies to support their speech, language, and social connection.
You don’t need to wait for a concern to feel “severe” to seek support.
The journey towards getting support can begin with curiosity and questions. Whether you are looking for reassurance or specific strategies, taking a proactive step provides the clarity needed to help your child thrive.
Why Early Hearing Checks Can Be Helpful
While many babies pass their newborn hearing screenings, it is important to remember that hearing can change over time. Monitoring these changes is a proactive way to support your child’s development.
A hearing check with an audiologist can:
- Identify temporary barriers: Detect issues like reduced eardrum movement, which can be related to middle ear fluid.
- Confirm clarity: Determine whether hearing is clear and consistent across different sound frequencies. For some children, high-pitched sounds like ‘s’ or ‘f’ are more difficult to detect than deeper sounds like ‘m’ or ‘d’ (often seen with middle ear fluid). For others, the pattern may be reversed. Identifying these specific patterns helps us understand exactly what your child is accessing in their environment. To see how different speech sounds fall across these frequencies, you can view the “Speech Banana” chart and pediatric audiology resources on the UCSF Department of Otolaryngology website. The Speech Banana is a helpful visual for understanding why a child might hear some words clearly but struggle with others.
- Provide a clear roadmap: Offer peace of mind or establish next steps with the support of professionals.
- Inform support strategies: Provide valuable data to help guide speech and language modelling and support if needed.
Navigating Professional Support
In Ontario, if a hearing check reveals persistent concerns—such as a history of recurrent ear infections or fluid—the next step is often a consultation with an Ear, Nose, and Throat specialist (ENT). An ENT can also help investigate and navigate other potential reasons for hearing changes beyond middle ear fluid, ensuring a comprehensive look at your child’s ear health.
Please note that a referral from your family doctor or a walk-in clinic is required to see an ENT in Ontario via OHIP.
Having this information sooner allows for timely support and helps reduce uncertainty, ensuring the focus remains on fostering your child’s connection and communication.
Practical Ways to Support Communication at Home
Whether or not hearing differences are present, these strategies can support your child’s communication and reduce the “listening effort” required during everyday life:
- Reduce background noise: When possible, turn off televisions or tablets during conversations. Minimizing competing sounds helps your child focus on speech and makes listening less exhausting.
- Get face-to-face: Position yourself at your child’s level. This allows them to clearly see your facial expressions, gestures, and mouth movements, which provide helpful visual cues for understanding.
- Use natural repetition: Repeat or rephrase important information in a relaxed, modelling-focused way. Example: “Time to go outside… let’s get our shoes on — we’re going outside!”
- Pause and give processing time: Children often need a few extra seconds to process what they hear. This “waiting” time is especially helpful if listening has been effortful for them.
- Follow your child’s lead: Engage with whatever has captured their interest. This creates a pressure-free environment where communication can happen naturally. For more on how to join in on your child’s interests, the Hanen Centre offers a helpful guide on Following Your Child’s Lead.
These strategies are supportive for all children and can be especially beneficial if listening has been inconsistent or if you are navigating a new hearing difference.
A Neurodiversity-Affirming Perspective ♾️
At Communicating Together Therapy & Wellness Associates, we approach support through a neurodiversity-affirming lens. This means:
- Valuing diversity: Recognizing that communication and brain differences are natural parts of human diversity.
- Honouring all communication: We value every way a child shares their message—whether through words, gestures, signs, visuals, or sounds. Recognizing every attempt to connect is valid doesn’t mean we overlook unsafe means of communication like biting or hitting. Instead, we look beneath the behaviour to understand the underlying need, so we can support your child in finding safe, helpful ways to express themselves.
- Focusing on strengths: Moving away from a “deficit-based” model doesn’t mean ignoring the areas where your child struggles. Instead, it means we use their existing strengths, interests, and natural ways of connecting as the foundation to build new skills and effectively support their daily challenges.
- Prioritizing regulation and safety: Supporting a child’s emotional regulation and sense of safety as the essential foundation for all learning and interaction.
- Collaborating with families: Working as partners with parents and caregivers to ensure strategies are practical, respectful, and tailored to your family’s daily life.
If a child is experiencing hearing differences, our role is to understand their unique experience and support communication in ways that feel accessible, empowering, and pressure-free.
Private Pediatric Speech Therapy in Waterloo, Ontario
If you live in Waterloo, Kitchener, or the surrounding area and want guidance around your child’s communication, we’re here to help.
At Communicating Together Therapy & Wellness Associates, we provide:
- Speech sound and motor speech therapy
- Language development support
- Social communication therapy
- Literacy development support
- Parent coaching
- Neurodiversity-affirming, relationship-based care
- Support for children who stutter
- Support for reluctant communicators
👉 Visit https://communicatingtogether.ca/ to learn more or to book a consultation.
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A Gentle Reminder
You are not overthinking this.
You are noticing, and noticing is the first step toward understanding and seeking support. Your child deserves to be heard and supported in how they communicate, and you don’t have to navigate that journey alone.
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📝 A Note to Parents and Caregivers
You don’t need perfect information to take a next step. Sometimes, a simple hearing check or conversation with a professional can bring clarity and peace of mind.
⚠️ Disclaimer
This blog is for general informational purposes only and does not replace individualized assessment or therapy. Please consult a doctor, licensed speech-language pathologist (SLP), and/or audiologist for guidance specific to your child.
👋 Take care,
Rhonda MacKinnon, M.Sc., S-LP(C), Reg. CASLPO – Speech-Language Pathologist


